This video, from Anna Graceman’s YouTube channel, is both adorable and funny, but it also makes a valid point: getting married before getting a job is not always the smartest decision. Now don’t get me wrong, early marriages can be very successful; however, it is much more practical to finish college and get a steady job before getting married. So, I have come up with three reasons why I believe in getting a job before marriage (in most cases):
1. Do Something Special! This little 5-year old said it perfectly; do something special for yourself. Get a degree in something you love and then work in that field to learn more about yourself, gain new skills, and make connections with other people who have similar interests. Build a life for yourself, and then share that life with someone you love.
2. Financial Stability…Who doesn’t want to be financially stable before entering a binding union with another person? It’s important that you and your partner are both financially ready for marriage. Not only does the wedding and honeymoon cost money, but so does buying a house and furniture, buying groceries, paying a mortgage, paying for taxes, and so on, nonetheless having kids!
3. Do Some Traveling…I don’t think I’ve ever heard someone say that he/she hates traveling–unless they are deathly afraid of planes, which is just another fear that can be overcome with time. I myself have not traveled extensively, but in my short travels I have come to realize that it is such an eye-opening experience. Traveling will give you a greater world-view (no more close-mindedness), an introduction to new cultures and customs, and might even teach you some of your greatest life lessons.
My hope is that you can find yourself before finding someone else, and maybe have the mindset of this little girl “I don’t want to marry someone if I don’t have a job first!” (but of course don’t let this stop you from having relationships and thinking about marriage–you don’t want to end up as the crazy cat lady).